I’ve been alone for many a Valentine’s Day, the last 5 in a row in fact, and they haven’t all been easy.
I find the idea of celebrating love quite beautiful, but Valentine’s Day can easily make those of us who are single or heartbroken feel left out. That’s why having intentional rituals for self-love can make the day so much sweeter. Plus, why not give yourself an excuse to bask in your own love?
Sometimes we forget that love is an unlimited force that exists within our own hearts, and that we literally do have enough love for ourselves and the world inside of us to feel whole, complete, and supremely connected. Things that happen to us in our lives can easily cloud us from remembering the capacity of our own hearts and can get in the way of our ability to feel our own divine love.
Here are a few self-love rituals that can rekindle that incredible love that resides inside you, so you can refill yourself up from head to toe with your own sweet warmth and remember that you are already whole and complete exactly as you are.
1. Purify Yourself
Underneath everything, at our core, there is love. One of my favourite ways to access this is to perform a cleansing ritual in either the bath or the shower. Bless the water and announce out loud or silently whatever it is that is blocking you from experiencing love. Then, step into the water and let it wash those things away. You can add some luscious oils to the bathwater or hang fresh eucalyptus leaves from the shower head to add some sensual sweetness to the experience. Once it’s complete, thank the water for cleansing you, and emerge with a purified heart.
2. Mirror Gaze
I used to shy away from mirrors and judge what I saw, but after trying this, I smile every time I pass one. Stand right up against a mirror and look into your eyes.
Keep looking until you see something that stirs your soul. Tell yourself that you are loved, that you are worthy and at first it will be hard, but as you do this more often, you will start to believe yourself and find that you actually do like yourself and will find an affinity with yourself for yourself.
3. Write a Love Letter from Yourself
This one always surprises me, and it can take anywhere from 30 seconds to 30 minutes. Sit down with a pen and paper and start writing a letter to yourself from yourself.
It can be a love letter or just a note intended to reveal anything you need to hear. Once you’ve written your letter, reread it to yourself and receive all that you want yourself to hear.
4. Make a “What’s Working for Me” list
Truly loving yourself from self-acceptance and self-awareness is something no-one else can do. And one helpful step toward getting to that point of self-acceptance is recognising what you already have that’s great by writing a “What’s Working for Me” list. Once you see it on paper and accept all of the positivity in your life, it will make it that much easier to love yourself.
5. Create a List of Affirmations to Read to Yourself
Go online for inspiration if you need it, but having a list of personalised, go-to positive phrases to say in times of frustration or overwhelm can be like having your own cheerleader in your pocket at all times. This is something I have used may times over. Min are in a little jar next to my bed and I pull one out and read it anytime I feel the need to be reminded I have love within me.
Remember that you are a powerful being, and that all the wisdom and love you need is already inside of you.
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